Sibling Rivalry

Once upon a time, my sister Owl used to blog, so if I needed to share an update about her, I could just link her post.  However, it’s been a while since she has, and I think her blog may no longer be public access, so I just have to update here.

Owlie-bird has a brain aneurysm.

I know, I had the same reaction.  I was like “How rude! Being the sickie is my job!”  We’ve always been competitive, and now she’s just upped the game on me.

She’s copying me, I just know it.  She’s been mimicking most of the same weird symptoms and ailments I’ve had over the years- I have scoliosis, she has scoliosis.  I have fibromyalgia, she has fibromyalgia- and it’s quite likely that she’ll also receive a diagnosis for the same set of syndromes that I’ve got as well- POTS and Ehlers Danlos.

The brain aneurysm may be linked to vascular-type Ehlers Danlos sydrome, and although I’m tempted to try to take my title of Reigning Sickie back, I have no intention of developing an aneurysm for it.  Sudden death isn’t my style.  I’m more of the slow & steady tortoise type, and here she is being all impetuous hare.

She’s weighing surgical intervention options, and duas are greatly appreciated.

Who knows, maybe we’re racing for Jannah.  May the best sickie win.




Abez is a 50% white, 50% Pakistani, and 100% Muslim. She is also chronically ill and terminally awesome. She is the ever-lovin Momma of: - Khalid, a special little boy with autism - Iman, a special little girl with especially big hair -Musfira, an especially devious baby Spoiler, Abez is also Zeba Khan on

  1. Hafsa

    AssalamAlaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh!

    La ba’sa tahoorun inshaAllah! May Allah grant you botth good health and long righteous lives and contentment and happiness. Ameen.

  2. Owl

    Oy, for the record, I got diagnosed with scoliosis and fibromyalgia WAY before you did. So indeed, YOU are copying ME! 🙂

    Just don’t get cancer too now.

    My aneurism says hi.

  3. Samia

    Subhanallah. I’ve been reading both your blogs for around 10 yrs now I think and I feel kind of speechless after reading what you’re both going through. May Allah grant you both complete recovery and long, fulfilling righteous lives.

  4. Abez

    Owl: Excuse me, but since I was BORN FIRST I got scoliosis first, even though you got diagnosed earlier. And even though your fibromyalgia is older, I maintain mine is of a superior quality.

    I wave goodbye to your cancer and raise you two extra ribs. Beat that, hotshot!

    Samia: Ameen. 🙂

  5. Samina

    May Allah SWT make these trials easy for you both and give us all acceptance and sabr so that we may prosper in Akhirah.
    You and your family must be loved very much by Allah SWT to be tested as you are.

    LOL……who’s stamina?! Certainly not this tired sister x

  6. taban

    assalam u alaikum sister I just wanted to tell u dat I recently came in contact with your blog and I cant tell u how much I have learned from you .It was ALLAHS will that I came to know about you and i am highly grateful to you for teaching me somethings i never knew JAZAKALLAH KHAIR and the taste of patience is indeed excellent

  7. Roze

    Dear Abez and Owl,
    What can I say except you both share a dark sense of humour too:))
    I truly admire the way you are handling this – and yes I’m sure you have had/having a ‘normal’ reaction too….but this made my own grief for you smile.
    I want to ask how i can get in touch with each of you personally please? Am i able to mail you please?
    May Allah bless you with the very best of everything in this life and the next, may He bless you with shifaa and peace with His decree. And may He bless your families with khayr.
    My love to you both x

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