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الوالي Al- Wali, The Protecting Friend

Ya Wali, as we move to a new country with new people, where we will find both new friends new enemies, please be the Protecting Friend of my children.

If my children face bullies, please protect their little hearts and bodies.

If my children face loneliness on the straight path,  let them know that the Lord Himself is with them even if no one else seems to be.

If my children cannot speak for themselves Allah, please do what the best of friends does, and speak on their behalf to protect their rights, dignities, and wellbeing.

Ya Wali, protect them from every form of abuse – physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, financial, and psychological – and turn destructive influences away from them and them away from destructive influences.

When I no longer walk this world with them, and they find themselves without their biggest fan and first friend, Ya Wali- comfort them and replace me in their lives with the companionship of those you love.

Protect my children, my little friends and Yours, with the company of the righteous and those with yaqeen in their hearts. Let your loving friendship protect their innocence, Ya Wali, as you guide them on the smoothest, straightest, most peaceful path back to you.

Ameen, Ameen, Ameen.


Al-Wali, from The Virtual Mosque

Al WaliAnd so what does it mean for Allah (swt) to be al-Wali – the Protective Friend? It means that He has your back. He could have just been a ‘friend,’ but some friends are flaky.

He is the true Wali, demonstrating His closeness to you and His protectiveness of you. This beautiful verse encapsulates how Allah (swt) manifests this attribute in our lives:

“Allah is the wali of those who believe. He brings them out from darknesses into the light…” (Qur’an, 2:257)

30 Days, 30 Duas.

I have yet to, in my life, manage to post continuously for a thirty day stretch, but in the followup of an inspirational and much-needed pre-Ramadan meeting with my awesome circle of friends, I will now try.

How many of Allah’s names do you know? I’m testing myself here, no cheating.  Translations based on what I remember.  Here I go:

  1. Allah – God, with the Capital G
  2. Ar-Rahman – The Merciful
  3. Al-Latif – The Subtle
  4. Al-Man’3u- The Preventer of Harm
  5. Al-Khabeer – The Informed
  6. Al- Wadud – The Loving
  7. Ash-Shakoor – The Grateful (not sure how to translate this- Allah is gracious in His thanks?)
  8. Al-Jameel – The Beautiful
  9. Al-Mujeeb – The Answerer (of prayers)
  10. Al-Ghafoor – The Forgiving
  11. Al- Khaaliq – The Creator

Ok, I made it to 11 before trying to mentally pull up a dusty old record in my head from Ramadan in Pakistan as a child, many moons ago.  Given that there are 99 names of Allah, 11 is kind of…sad.  So my Ramadan goal for this blog is this: I will, InshaAllah, post one personal dua a day based on a name of Allah.  InshaAllah, by the end of Ramadan I should then know 30 of them, instead of 11.  InshaAllah. 🙂

Ramadan Craft: Ikea Fanoos

Lamps 4inSo in parts of the world other than America (where I grew up) there is a Ramadan tradition of lighting and decorating with Fanoos, or lamps.

In parts of the world, like America (where I grew up) there is a tradition of crafting things for no reason other than the fact that you can, yay!

So here is our Ramadan Fanoos How-To, especially useful if you happen to be living in parts of the world where they do sell flat-packed meatballs and Swedish furniture in gravy, but not Ramadan decorations.

You will need:

  • Ikea lanterns
  • Whatever nail polish your children haven’t painted their teeth with yet
  • Sparkly bits

Lamp bottom

You will then:

  • Exercise saintly levels of maternal patience while the children paint the tables, floors, hands, fingers, and glass windows of the lamps.
  • beforeRemember to cover the table, so start the craft over on a plastic sheet.


  • Tell children to paint the glass as many times as necessary to achieve desired opacity (or the lack thereof) as cheap nail polish can be frustratingly invisible when applied on glass.

You can use:

  • random sparkly bits and notions to jazz the lamps up. We used sequins and they stuck well enough on to the wet nail polish.
  • caution: The top part of the lamp will heat up once a candle is lit inside, we kinda regret using nail polish on the top section, as it smells.  We put crystals there too, and they melted. They’re not there anymore.
  • an electric tea-light instead of a real candle in case you don’t want to deal with heat or children burning themselves whenever they see they pretty fanoos and say ooooooooh!
  • Aaaaaah!
  • MashaAllah!
  • Ramadan Kareem. 🙂

Ramadan Fanoos